Discussion Question:
In your experience, why do people typically break up?
There are never ending amounts of reasons for why couples break up relationships. I believe that many a times a break up is usually done for selfish reasons. Not to say that this happens in all cases... but many do. Love is selfless and when two are in a relationship they are needing to give of themselves. When one or both persons refrains from giving, the potential for selfishness to seep in causing those involved to ask "what am I getting from this other person?"
If you think about it, many reasons why people get out of relationships are selfish. Jealousy - "he is spending too much time with others" or "she can't stop flirting with my friends". Jealousy can also tie in with Self-Esteem issues. Money - "he spends it all on what he wants and doesn't think about me or our future" or "she's too careless with my money and goes spending it on things that are unnecessary". Boredom - "this person is not interesting to me any more".
Other reasons for a break up that were raised in class:
Adultery/Cheating, Abuse, etc. These are litigate reasons for break up in my eyes. It is not selfish for someone to consider themselves worthy of a better partner who treats them with respect. Although, from a Christian's perspective, I do believe that when already married a couple should try to work on their relationship. I do believe that divorce can be considered an option when in these situations.
