Sex, A Taboo Subject

Children are becoming more and more "sext up" as the years go on. As time progresses, it seems like the exposed generation gets younger. It's sad that people might predict that soon five year olds will be addicted to porn, passing around pictures of themselves naked or even having sex with each other. It's so sad…

The documentary Professor Nellis showed in class yesterday revealed the world of "sext up kids".  The majority of the children that shared their stories were girls under the age of 16. Many explained that they had made mistakes in becoming victims of this degrading subject matter and say that they wished they had never done many other things they had done.

One young girl shared her story of how her boyfriend at the time asked if he could “see a picture”. She then sent him a photo in which she posed in a sexual way. He thought it would be a good joke to send it to a few friends. Years later, she is still being made fun of by family members, classmates, and strangers. Humiliation has brought her to see how this was a dangerous and degrading way for her to receive attention.

The documentary showed how workshops have been created for young girls to help them understand the world of sex and the dangers that come along with getting involved too early. Workshops seem like an excellent way to educate children about sex before they are told by their friend (potentially getting them into trouble). I do, however, think that these workshops should be taught by people the children taking them look up to and admire. I think these classes would be beneficial for boys and girls of younger and older ages during middle school and high school. I don’t think that biology class will cut it for a group of kids that are already sexually active at age 15. My friend once told me, “Biology class is only the plumbing of the matter. Children need to know how sex, whether oral, actual, or even jokes can negatively affect them.”

It's also quite sad that parents might be contributing to the problem. With the use of technology increasing, parents find it 'ok' for their children to handle adult devices such as smart phones with which their kids have free access to internet sites at any time. It is hard to say how tight a leash parents should have on their children's internet, phone, and media access. After all, if a child is told not to do something over and over, more than likely they are bound to become curious. But if a parent never talks about the taboo subject of sex, there is no open dialog or communication about things that need to be talked about.

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From a Christian’s perspective, I think that I have a clear view of WHY I want to sustain from having sex, or going anywhere close to it before I am married.

http://www.gotquestions.org/sex-before-marriage.html

This website poses the question: “What does the Bible say about sex before marriage? :

The answer (I thoroughly agree with):

There is no Hebrew or Greek word used in the Bible that precisely refers to sex before marriage. The Bible undeniably condemns adultery and sexual immorality, but is sex before marriage considered sexually immoral? According to 1 Corinthians 7:2, “yes” is the clear answer: “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.” In this verse, Paul states that marriage is the “cure” for sexual immorality. 1 Corinthians 7:2 is essentially saying that, because people cannot control themselves and so many are having immoral sex outside of marriage, people should get married. Then they can fulfill their passions in a moral way.

Since 1 Corinthians 7:2 clearly includes sex before marriage in the definition of sexual immorality, all of the Bible verses that condemn sexual immorality as being sinful also condemn sex before marriage as sinful. Sex before marriage is included in the biblical definition of sexual immorality. There are numerous Scriptures that declare sex before marriage to be a sin (Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes complete abstinence before marriage. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations of which God approves (Hebrews 13:4).

Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing that there is another aspect—procreation. Sex within marriage is pleasurable, and God designed it that way. God wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity within the confines of marriage. Song of Solomon and several other Bible passages (such as Proverbs 5:19) clearly describe the pleasure of sex. However, the couple must understand that God’s intent for sex includes producing children. Thus, for a couple to engage in sex before marriage is doubly wrong—they are enjoying pleasures not intended for them, and they are taking a chance of creating a human life outside of the family structure God intended for every child.

While practicality does not determine right from wrong, if the Bible's message on sex before marriage were obeyed, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, far fewer abortions, far fewer unwed mothers and unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children growing up without both parents in their lives. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and, most importantly, honors God.